I don’t really know why this is (or even if it’s just peculiar to me), but it’s happened again and again. After I started writing and submitting seriously, I went to Clarion and met people who were super focused and dedicated writers. After I started selling stories, I joined the Codex workshop and became friends with people who’re getting reprinted and being nominated for awards. After getting an agent, I went to the Nebulas, where it seemed like every single person I talked to had either just gotten an agent or just sold their book.
It’s all very interesting. I have my theories about why this is. Part of it is just confidence. Once I get to the next level as a writer, I feel more comfortable with talking to more high-status people. For instance, when I first went to Readercon (aeons ago), I was so miserable that I swore I wouldn’t go to another con until I’d sold a few stories and didn’t feel like such a hanger-on. And that’s exactly what I did!
The other part of it is that you just notice certain conversations more. Before you’ve written a novel, you sort of tune out conversations about getting an agent. But once you have a manuscript, you begin to pay attention. Similarly, right now I tend to tune out conversations about rights reversion and going out of print and foreign rights sales and firing your agent and all that other career stuff that’s a bit too far in the future for me.
And there’s also an element of cliquishness to it. Like, whenever two authors get together, they always test each other in this weird, coy way, trying to figure out where the other person has published, what they’ve written, etc–basically trying to figure out how much to respect them.
In SF, you don’t immediately get shut out of the conversation if you don’t measure up–you definitely get to at least stick around and listen. But you don’t really get to talk. Also, there is a slight tendency for people to condescend to lower-level people (god, I know that I sometimes condescend to other writers, although I do my best to avoid it!)
For instance, now that I am agented, it is way easier for me to talk to editors and agents, because they know they’re probably not going to get a manuscript for me. Getting connections is easier when you don’t need them.
I wonder if this would also work for people who are very low-level. If you haven’t even begun to think about writing a novel yet, then maybe that is the time to form connections with agents and editors and novelists–since you’re not yet hawking anything, you’re less of an annoyance. Not sure.
In general, I think there’s a lot of value to bounding over this paradigm and trying to associate with people who’re much further ahead of you. For instance, when I was trying to find an agent, I wasn’t close with many people who had agents–if I had been, the process would’ve been much easier.
But, sadly, that’s not how I do.